God’s Blueprint for Relationships: Love

This post is the second in the series on God’s Blueprint for Relationships. If you have not you may wan to read the first post:  Blueprint for a Perfect Relationship.


heart-1-300x225Love is the foundation for many…if not most of our relationships. Is love an emotion that changes as often as the weather? Or is love an intentional decision of the will that leads to action? God commands us to love, but how is this love to be seen in our daily lives?

John 15:12 “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this that one lay down his life for his friends. 14 You are My friends if you do what I command you. 15 No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you. 17 This I command you, that you love one another.

Jesus commanded to His disciples to love one another as He had loved them (John 15:12). So the question is how did Christ love His disciples? He loved them by being an example:  doing the work of God (John 4:36, 6: 26-29, 17:13); serving others (John 13:12-17); obeying God’s commands (John 14:31); laying down His life for them (John 10:15, 15).

In fact, Jesus said there is no greater love than to lay down your life for your friends (John 15:13). Paul said Christ loved us by giving Himself up for us as an offering and a sacrifice to God (Ephesians 5:2) that we might receive forgiveness of our sins (Colossians 1:14). Because God loves us, He gave His only Son, so that when we believe in Him we will not perish (lose our lives for eternity) but have eternal life (John 3:16).

Out of love Christ gave up His life that we may have eternal life through Him.

How are we to love as Christ loved? 

1 John 3:16 We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 17 But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? 18 Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.

John instructs us not to love in word or tongue but to love in deed and truth. To love only in word or tongue is to love with careless or selfish words and fail to show any evidence of real love. To love in deed is to love with action…sharing and giving of ourselves to meet the need of others, whether it is the need for salvation or a meal.  To love in truth is to love with sincerity, speaking truth in love so that our heart does not condemn us before God (1 John 3:19-20).

Love in deed by sharing what we have…love in truth by acting out of a sincere heart.

Why is loving other so important?

John 3:14 We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love abides in death. 15 Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer; and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.

Our loving one another gives evidence of our salvation…that we have come to faith and have eternal life. Our refusal to love shows that we remain spiritually dead and are living according to our natural sinful nature.

Our love or lack of it gives evidence of the spirtual condition of our hearts!

Psalm 100: Joyful Thanksgiving

Giving thanks to God is a lifestyle choice not just a day on the calendar. Taking our cue from the psalmist, let’s learn to joyfully shout out our thanks to God.

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1 Shout joyfully to the Lord, all the earth.

2 Serve the Lord with gladness;

   Come before Him with joyful singing.

3 Know that the Lord Himself is God;

   It is He who has made us, and not ourselves;

   We are His people and the sheep of His pasture.

4 Enter His gates with thanksgiving

   And His courts with praise.

   Give thanks to Him, bless His name.

5 For the Lord is good;

   His lovingkindness is everlasting

   And His faithfulness to all generations.

Verses 1-2: Do all with joy…

This psalm opens with the three commands, but the psalmist is not just calling us to action but to have an attitude of joy before the Lord.  We are challenged to live out our faith with a joyfulness that is heard in our words and seen in our actions.

Verse 3: The Lord He is God…

Too often we live as though we are “self made” and able to decide who we are and what we do. Recognizing we are His people…the sheep of His pasture, means that we must accept Him as our shepherd and submit to His authority in our lives.

Verse 4: Enter His presence with thanksgiving…

We must be intentional to come before the Lord with a thankful heart and mind. Not only because of what He has done for us, but more importantly because of who He is…blessing His name. The Hebrew word for bless is bârak. It literally means  to kneel; the implication is to bless God is an act of adoration.

Verse 5: His lovingkindness is everlasting…

God is our standard for goodness. His lovingkindness (hesed-mercy, kindness, steadfast love) is always available for us to accept or reject. God’s faithfulness speaks of His trustworthiness, dependability for all time.

Several years ago I taught kindergarten at our church preschool. The students memorized Psalm 100 for their “graduation”. I would encourage you to memorize this psalm and let it become the pattern for you life…as you

Serve with joy…

Submit to God as creator and shepherd…

Give Him thanks; bless His name…

Praise His goodness, lovingkindness and faithfulness!