When trouble comes, our first response might to stay in bed, cover our head, and shut out the world…or is it just me? I would like to offer four tips that can help when you find wishing your problems away does not work…
Cry out to God. Read, reread the bible, let the truth of His love and care sink deep within your soul. It is in God’s word that I find comfort and encouragement that helps to sustain me through the difficult times. In many of the psalms David wrote of his pain and struggles. As I read them it helps me put my problems in perspective and to look past my trouble and trust God’s bigger purpose.
Let my cry come before You, O Lord;
Give me understanding according to Your word.
Let my supplication come before You;
Deliver me according to Your word.
Take care of yourself. I want to fix things…NOW! And might be known to work myself into exhaustion to make things right…if only I could. I have learned that I need to relax; and trust that God is at work even when I am not. Sleep; when I don’t get the rest I need, I will likely get sick and definitely will get irritable. Eat healthy; in my need to fix the problem, I often do not want to make the time to shop for groceries and cook a meal, yet the shopping and chopping bring a sense of normalcy and routine that can be very calming. And provides the fuel my body needs to stay healthy through the stressfulness. Exercise; sitting and stewing about the situation gets me down both mentally and physically. Taking a walk or doing an Essentrics workout helps to energize my body and clear my mind.
For the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His… 2 Chronicles 16:9
Don’t try to go it alone. As a “fixer”, this is probably the area that is most difficult for me…asking for help. Please, turn to trusted friends and share what you are going through. Pray with them. Listen to them. Let them help.
And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. Ecclesiastes 4:12
Seek professional help. I have not actually followed through with this step. Friends have shared how helpful it is to speak to a Christian counselor who does not have an emotional attachment to you or your situation, and who brings a fresh biblical perspective and offers sound advice.
Listen to counsel and accept discipline,
That you may be wise the rest of your days.
Many plans are in a man’s heart,
But the counsel of the Lord will stand.
Throw back the covers…
Look pass the difficulties that lay ahead having your mind set on heavenly things (Colossians 3:2), and equipped with the sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17). Move forward with a body that is healthy, strong, and well rested. Stand firm with a heart encouraged by those who walk along side of you through the crisis.